Monday, December 21, 2009
1st Date Do’s and Don’ts
Do not look like him
I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Heather Allen, owner of Trel Style Consulting. We spent some time brainstorming some do’s and don’ts to follow when going on a first date. This will be part 1 of a 4 part series delving into this subject.
For the gentleman, remember that you are trying to make a good first impression and that good hygiene is very important. You don’t want to look like you just spent two hours rolling in the mud even if you just got off of work so spend some time making sure that you are clean and that your hair is presentable.
As far as fashion goes for the gentleman, make sure that you are dressing for the current decade unless you and your date are planning on attending a costume party.
Since you are trying to make a good first impression, it is best to avoid any type of overscale print, baggy pants, or muscle tees. I highly doubt that your date wants to see any of this especially the baggy pants since most ladies cringe at the sight of any man that shows off his boxers or briefs while walking down the street.
Another no-no
Some ladies are extremely picky about gentleman with facial hair so make sure that your facial hair is well trimmed and presentable or that you shave before you meet your date.
For the ladies, you are also trying to impress your date so you must also be clean and presentable. Make sure that you allot enough time to do your hair, makeup, and nails so that you are well put together.
As far as fashion goes, make sure that you are wearing the proper support garments. Nothing can kill a date like panties that create wedgies or a bra that is one size too big or small. Please remember to dress your age and leave a little to the imagination. In other words, if you are 50, please don’t try to dress like you did 20 years ago. It just isn’t working. Since you are trying to leave a little to the imagination, don’t wear a low-cut top without some type of garment whether it be a shirt or a sweater to cover it up. Lastly, avoid any type of tight fitting or loose clothing that might make you look bigger than your actual size.
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One thing I wonder about — Are these clothing and hygiene recommendations really necessary — once one graduates high school? Usually by the time one hits 18, the choices for personal style and appearance have been pretty well figured out.
The recommendations seem to me, to be targeting a particular form of body-type and style — but people’s tastes in both are pretty far ranging. I think the issues are much more succinct — just about everyone is looking to get laid on any and every first date. The rest of it is just formatting. I thing a discussion about what constitutes & evokes sexual energy and desire might be more on point.
Mark
“just about everyone is looking to get laid on any and every first date”
Um… I think that is — to say the very least — a gross exaggeration. Certainly some people have that as their one and only goal, but “just about everyone?” I’d need some real evidence before I believed it. As important as sex is to people, there actually are plenty of other reasons and motivations for people of both genders to go on a first date.
As for the hygiene and fashion tips in this post, they are pretty basic, but I’ve seen far too many people well past high school age who could benefit from a refresher course in how to be presentable. I’m interested in seeing the next few posts to see what other dating issues are addressed. Keep ‘em coming, Ed!
I wanted to first off thank everyone who has read this article and those who went on to offer comments on the topic. The tips included in this article could be considered fairly basic however, many are not followed as Megan mentioned, these tips have proven beneficial to people if they do want to impress someone in most situations. That being said, I do work with a wide variety of people, each of them possess a different set of goals. When working with an individual I am afforded more opportunities to aid them in develoing an image that is very specific to what they want to acheive. For the purpose of an article however, we did need to keep the tips fairly general.
As far as dressing to evoke sexual energy that is great topic and probably a different article. The intention for this article was really dressing for dating that would lead to a long term relationship. I am most certainly open to discussing dressing for just attraction as well. Feel free to contact me at lvstyleconsultant@gmail.com.
I hope this clears things up, and thank you for your comments!